We’ve all blown first impressions before and we’re still standing. That means they aren’t important, right? Wrongo-mania.

我們都曾搞砸過(guò)第一印象，但是我們現(xiàn)在仍然挺好的。這說(shuō)明第一印象不重要，對(duì)嗎？不對(duì)。

First impressions often times set the stage for an entire relationship, or lack thereof, and if you can learn how to master them you’ll start seeing better results all across the board.

第一印象往往能夠加倍設(shè)定整個(gè)關(guān)系的基調(diào)， 如果你能學(xué)習(xí)如何掌控它們，你會(huì)開(kāi)始看到更好的結(jié)果。

In your work life, personal life, even love life, first impressions separate the winners from the folks who talk about some day being winners. Here are 7 ways make these crucial moments count.

在你的工作生活、個(gè)人生活，甚至是愛(ài)情生活中，第一印象能把贏家和談?wù)撟约阂院蟪蔀橼A家的人區(qū)分開(kāi)。下面的這7種方式，能使你留下好的第一印象。

1) Use a CONCISE greeting

問(wèn)候要簡(jiǎn)潔明了

This point one is #1 because it’s the first point of interaction, not to mention the most-commonly screwed up.

這一點(diǎn)是最重要的，因?yàn)檫@是相互交流的起點(diǎn)，如果這都做不好， 更不用說(shuō)最常見(jiàn)的搞砸了。

And as Wikipedia notes, the greeting we choose, combined with our physical presentation (#2) are the biggest contributors to the mental image we leave someone with.

維基百科上面寫道，我們選擇的問(wèn)候方式，和我們的身體表達(dá)（#2）是給別人留下印象的最主要方式。

Now, we all have that friend who manages to say too much when first meeting someone. He/she opens up into their relationship, pet, and family problems before the other part has muttered a “nice to meet you.”

現(xiàn)在，我們都有第一次和他人見(jiàn)面就說(shuō)很多話的朋友。他/她在對(duì)方剛說(shuō)出“很高興遇見(jiàn)你”之后就把他/她的戀愛(ài)關(guān)系、寵物、家庭問(wèn)題告訴對(duì)方。

While there is a lot to be said for candid honesty and being passionate, this sort of greeting doesn’t go too far in settings where you’re being judged professionally or on some other merit.

雖然坦率誠(chéng)實(shí)、富有激情也很不錯(cuò)，但是這種問(wèn)候在別人對(duì)你職業(yè)上的判斷或其他優(yōu)點(diǎn)的判斷上沒(méi)什么好處。

Instead, you odds are much safer with a greeting like “pleasure’s mine”. Then, let the other party do the talking. It’s okay to plan this greeting in advance – they key is to say less and by doing this convey a position of power while commanding respect.

用像“很高興能為你效勞” 這樣的問(wèn)候，你的優(yōu)勢(shì)會(huì)更多一些。然后，讓對(duì)方來(lái)說(shuō)話。提前想好問(wèn)候語(yǔ)也沒(méi)關(guān)系——關(guān)鍵是少說(shuō)， 通過(guò)這樣做，表示地位并贏得尊重。

2) Look the part

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For men it usually amounts to running a bit of gel and a comb through ones hair and tucking in a nice shirt and tie. For girls, well I have no idea but do have a serious respect for the time it takes to prepare oneself.

對(duì)男性來(lái)說(shuō)，梳梳頭抹點(diǎn)兒發(fā)膠，再穿件不錯(cuò)的襯衫打上領(lǐng)帶就可以了。對(duì)女性來(lái)說(shuō)，我不好說(shuō)，但是一定要多花點(diǎn)兒時(shí)間準(zhǔn)備好自己。

If you fail to look decent but talk well, you’ll cut yourself shorter than if you looked great and talked average. Stress the important things, those people remember.

如果你看上去不夠得體但談吐不錯(cuò)，不如看上去得體但談吐一般的人留下的印象好。強(qiáng)調(diào)重要的事情，大家都會(huì)記得。

Keep in mind, people look to salient (less-obvious) clues for gathering intelligence on you, and a big one is just someones appearance and demeanor.

請(qǐng)記住，人們?cè)诹私饽愕男畔r(shí)會(huì)尋找重要（不太明顯）的線索， 而其中很大的一部分是你的外表和舉止。

3) Listen, play off of someone

傾聽(tīng)，對(duì)他人的話加以回應(yīng)。

Following your short greeting, it’s important to listen to what the other party is saying. If you over-plan your first impression, this becomes tricky and you’ll likely say something off-handed or just fail to say anything.

在簡(jiǎn)短的問(wèn)候之后，傾聽(tīng)對(duì)方的談話非常重要。如果你過(guò)度計(jì)劃自己的第一印象，你很有可能隨意說(shuō)說(shuō)或什么也不說(shuō)，這就比較麻煩了

So keep in mind you need to listen. Playing off someone else’s initial remarks shows poise and will earn you instant respect.

所以請(qǐng)記住你需要傾聽(tīng)。認(rèn)真傾聽(tīng)別人的話并加以響應(yīng)會(huì)顯示出你的風(fēng)度，你會(huì)立刻贏得尊重。

Showing an ability to play off of someone else’s comments gives yourself an extra aura of confidence and awareness people will surely find attractive.

能對(duì)別人的話語(yǔ)進(jìn)行回應(yīng)會(huì)讓你更有自信，別人也會(huì)認(rèn)為你有吸引力。

4) Rid yourself of stress

擺脫壓力

This one is tricky. However if you find your mind wandering to a moment of stress, like something nagging you, you’ll often face-plant mid conversation. We all do it.

這項(xiàng)比較棘手。如果你發(fā)現(xiàn)自己的思緒有片刻的壓力，就像是有事情困擾著你，那么在談話中你的表情就會(huì)顯示出來(lái)。我們都經(jīng)歷過(guò)。

So before you head off the big meeting or big date, try to free your mind of whatever it is that’s worrying you.

所以在參加重要的會(huì)議或約會(huì)前，無(wú)論在擔(dān)心什么事情，都要嘗試去釋放自己的頭腦。

Don’t turn to alcohol. Instead, just take a few deep breathes and maybe have a laugh at yourself too. Freeing up your mind will really help you interact smoothly and pleasantly.

不要喝酒。做幾次深呼吸，也許還可以自嘲一下。 釋放你的頭腦能真正地幫助你和他人順利、愉快地互動(dòng)。

5) Make the right amount of eye contact

適量的眼神交流

The right amount of eye contact basically equivocates to showing someone you care about what they are talking about.

適量的眼神交流基本上等同于告訴別人你在乎別人談?wù)摰膬?nèi)容。

Making too much of it, well, that’s not really a problem. Everyone has their own style. But if you fail to make eye contact you may appear aloof or careless. You may even appear scared.

眼神交流過(guò)多也不是什么大問(wèn)題。每個(gè)人都有自己的風(fēng)格。但是如果你無(wú)法進(jìn)行眼神交流，你可能看上去很冷漠或漫不經(jīng)心。你甚至看起來(lái)有些害怕。

It’s important to practice making eye contact in first impression situations, so even if it bothers you try and get out there and stare ‘em down.

要想留下好的第一印象，練習(xí)眼神交流非常重要。所以即便你不喜歡這樣做，也要試著去看著別人的眼睛。

6) Be comfortable with the mic

說(shuō)話時(shí)要泰然自若

If you have acheived all of the above, you need to be comfortable speaking when the conversation drifts your way. That means confidently telling folks what you do, why you do it, and a couple other interesting facts about yourself.

如果上面的這幾項(xiàng)你都掌握了， 那么當(dāng)輪到你說(shuō)話時(shí)，你要泰然自若。也就是說(shuō)要自信地告訴對(duì)方你做了什么事情、為什么去做，還有一些自己的趣聞。

If you can’t manage this, or stammer, or act confused, all your efforts will be wasted. If you can show composureand speak with a bit of authority, you’ll really drive the nail in. Plan a few tidbits about yourself in advance, but keep them malleableto the dynamics of the situation.

如果你做不到，或口吃，或做出讓人迷惑的行為，那么你的努力就都白費(fèi)了。 如果你表現(xiàn)沉著，說(shuō)話時(shí)帶點(diǎn)兒威嚴(yán)，那你算是抓住要點(diǎn)了。提前想好自己的趣聞，但是在現(xiàn)場(chǎng)要根據(jù)情況發(fā)揮。

7) Use a concise good-bye

簡(jiǎn)單明了地再見(jiàn)

Just like your introduction was concise, the good-bye should be brief and professional as well.

就像你的自我介紹要簡(jiǎn)單明了一樣，再見(jiàn)也應(yīng)該簡(jiǎn)潔并體現(xiàn)出職業(yè)性。

This shows you’re used to meeting new people, are comfortable breaking from a conversation, and above all could make the other party wish for more of your company down the road.

這體現(xiàn)出你經(jīng)常和不熟悉的人見(jiàn)面，能自如地結(jié)束對(duì)話，此外，還能讓對(duì)方希望有機(jī)會(huì)再和你見(jiàn)面。